I used to play a lot of World of Warcraft. Sometimes, a group of us would fight our way through a dungeon together. The warrior would be at the front, taking the hits; the hunters and magicians behind him, raining arrows and fireballs upon the hostile ghouls; and the priest would be at the back, healing those who began to feel the damage.
It’s the priest’s job to notice wounds and tend to them, but he invariably misses some now and then. When someone is hurt, and the holy spells aren’t reaching him, he just says “heals pls”, and his injuries are presently attended.
This should be adopted into real life. Take care of others’ emotional states. Heal them when they seem to need healing. Give them reassurance, compliments, and unmeasured love – each in its measure, each in its time.
And when you need some healing yourself, just ask. Ask in a neutral, earnest, undemanding tone. For instance:
- “I’m feeling a little fragile right now. Please be gentle.”
- “I’m going through a frustrating time with this novel of mine. Can you reassure me that I’m a competent writer despite my current struggles?”
- “My breakup was awful. Would you please hold me and softly coo to me for a while?”
Don’t remain silent when you’re suffering. Request heals.